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January 27, 2006

Random 10 - Rehab Edition

  • First Day of My Life - Bright Eyes
  • Night Before - The Pietasters
  • Down by the Water - PJ Harvey
  • Class - Chicago Soundtrack
  • Famous Blue Raincoat - Tori Amos
  • She Walks on Me - Hole
  • Gold Digger - Kanye West
  • I Know This Bar - Ani Difranco
  • I would Die 4 U - Prince
  • The First taste - Fiona Apple
My assessment? Random as always, but pretty mainstream this week. Definitely something brewing in my iPod. It may be trying to tell me to renouce my evil ways. Help me, Kanye!

Speaking of Kanye West, I meant to say something about the stupid brouhaha about his Jesus-a-licious Rolling Stone cover, earlier this week. But now I don't care anymore. What I do care about is this. Al Sharpton is certainly not alone in thinking that "the 'n' word" shouldn't be used on television. And I understand that having Martin Luther King Jr, using it in a cartoon is pretty out there. But that's The Boondocks. That's what's so amazing about the show and the strip. If you watched the episode, it was very respectful of Dr. King, and I think the story (instead of dying King was in a coma and awoke in 2001. Post September 11 he was driven from America by… well, us.) was a lot more thought-provoking than most of the boring tributes we see every year. And what better way to celebrate his memory than actually thinking about his message and what he might experience today.

I can see how Sharpton could be offended, but Aaron McGruder (call me!) probably made a lot of people who only think about Martin Luther King as a holiday stop for a minute and think about where America has been, where we are, and how far we have to go.

Via Atrios.

Wow, who would have thought I'd have something earnest to say in a Friday Random 10. With a hangover. It's like sarcastic girl rehab. Must be the upcoming birthday. Damn!


January 26, 2006

while I wasn't paying attention

Craziness all over. That Bitch (swoon) is in the middle of quite a big to do over at Alas and Pandagon.

I was trying to wade through all of it this morning, but honestly, it exhausted me. What's going on? Can't we all just get along? Not in the "be nice girls" sense of it, but in the respectful disagreement and open conversation sense of it.

Now, I understand that the internt is a strange medium for debate. Talking to people you don't know and can't see certainly lends itself to a harsher tone and freer words.

I'm as judgemental and pig-headed as the next person. My first instinct is to think people who disagree with me are morons. But, that's just the first one. After that I let what they actually say help me decide if they're a moron.

I know I keep yammering about this, but I think there's room for all of us. Susie Bright and Andrea Dworkin. If I may quote myself (shameful):

What I don't understand is this. Smart women on both sides of this debate are
treating each other like they're stupid. But they're not. I know Ariel Levy
isn't trying to shove me back into the kitchen and steal my shoes. But she needs
to understand that I'm not trying to reduce myself to a walking vagina either.


The great thing about feminism, overall, is that it means women deciding for ourselves who we are and what we want. Not just letting history and the social structures around us define us. That is so amazing. And it's hard. It's really, really hard figure out how to make the lives of half the population of the world better. Hell, it's hard to figure out how to make the life of one woman better. But that's what we're trying to do. So there's room for all of us. That's the only way this works. But we really need to stop screaming "bad feminist" at everyone who disagrees. Christina Hoff Summers is not anti-feminist. Katherine MacKinnon is not a bad feminist. Susan Faludi is not a bad feminist. Susie Bright is not a bad feminist. Their feminismS are just different. And I think we need all of them to get the job done.

Over at Alas, one commenter said:

I always thought that feminism was supposed to be about learning how to
understand society so you could then analyse your actions and desires,
understand why you want certain things and not others, and then, to the best of
your ability, do the thing that you honestly believe is RIGHT…whether or not you
necessarily "want" to.


Whew, that's a tough one. Any maybe that's the problem. We haven't even agreed what feminism is. Sure, we have a bunch of things we call feminist issues. But that doesn't really provide a good mission statement. There was a lot of conversation a few months back about different kind of feminists (tired to find a link, can't right now). What's that one slogan? "Feminism is the radical idea that women are people too." I'm a fan of that, but I think it reveals the problem. People are complicated, and what we "honestly believe is RIGHT" is going to vary. So who decides?


January 22, 2006

Roe's 33rd Anniversary

Those of you who know me outside of this blog will understand why I'm not participating in Blog for Choice day, but I need to at least link to it.

And, amidst all the work stress, reading what some people have posted is really touching and inspiring. It's nice to be reminded that there are people on your side. Go check it out.