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February 02, 2006

Yes, please...

Another great blog I found courtesy of Bitch | Lab, The SmackDog Chronicles. I'm going to get out of your way and let you read it:

Now, I tend to agree in major part with both beliefs: I support the full agenda of sexual liberation and free sexual expression, as well as the total decriminalization of the free consumption of sex work media such as pornography and prostitution (mostly because I believe that open and fully legal sex trading can be regulated to insure both safer work conditions and better experiences for both the workers and their clients. Yet, I also strongly believe just as strongly and passionately in the fundamental program of women's equality, including the right of women to make free and informed personal decisions about their own bodies without censure and without harm, and with the full respect for the concerns and feelings of others. I would think that the two were totally compatable, and went hand-in-hand with each other, and that sexual liberation is perfectly consistent with feminism and Leftist advocacy.

So I wondered, who wrote this smart stuff?

I am a 40+ year old Black man who believes in truth, justice, equality, mutual respect, mutual dignity, and an Independent Left that doesn't suck as much as the Democratic Party seems to. Oh..and I also adore sexy, intellegent women, too.
Hi there, Anthony! I think I love you.

February 01, 2006

Happy birthday to me!

And in typical me style, for my birthday I have a hangover. Wahoo! So, I'm really just reading what others have to say today. Not a lot of high-level thought going on in my head.

Over at, we are reminded that "Sex-positive does not mean misogyny-friendly!"

There's a lot there. Check it out. One thing struck me in the comments.

I for one am sex positive yet very very anti-porn.

I can’t imagine any porn ever being helpful to fighting against the patriachy.

Wha-huh? I don't get it. Does everything that exists have to be patriarchy-destroying? I mean, there are a lot of other things that creative expression accomplishes, many of which have nothing to do with partriarchy. Is that the standard? I can't see any point to it.

There's also talk about the whole problem with even calling it "sex-positive feminism," as though we're fighting against "sex-negative" feminists. "Anti-porn feminists" is closer, but still not exactly it. In Wikipedia they suggest that "individualist feminism" is the same as sex-positive. I'm not sure I agree. I think they're similar, or at least come from a similar philosophy.

Sigh. Here's my problem with the arguments I hear against porn. Aside from those who think it's actual violence, I gather that people think porn objectifies women and provides an unrealistic view of women and their sexuality. Hmm, that sounds familiar. Oh, it soulds like any form of popular media today. So here's the question. If that's what's wrong with porn, why are we trying to get rid of porn, but not Hollywood. Or the modeling industry? Well, I don't think we sohuld get rid of any of them, necessarily. There's one cause below all of this which shold be our target. Then we don't have to get rid of porn, or glossy magazines, we change the culture that let's them exist the way they do right now.

Update: After typing this I saw a Bitch Lab post on the same thing. Great bitches think alike.

Note to Bitch: Yeah, I don't know how my blog ended up being all about sex-positive feminism and abortion. It just happened. (Whew, I almost went a whole post without saying abortion. That was close.)

January 31, 2006

What Pam said...

Coretta Scott King has passed away ...

This loss is so great because Mrs. King was an advocate for civil rights who believed that phrase was inclusive — those of us in the LGBT family knew that she was on our side. While other figures in the civil rights movement, including Coretta's daughter Bernice, have chosen exclusion, demonization, and marginalization of gays and lesbians, Coretta Scott King stood regally and spoke eloquently about why discrimination of any kind is wrong.

My husband, Martin Luther King Jr., once said, "We are all tied together in a single garment of destiny…an inescapable network of mutuality.… I can never be what I ought to be until you are allowed to be what you ought to be." Therefore, I appeal to everyone who believes in Martin Luther King Jr.'s dream to make room at the table of brotherhood and sisterhood for lesbian and gay people.


Coretta Scott King died last night. Nothing else to say. She was an incredible woman. The world is less without her.

January 30, 2006

The neverending blog post

I keep starting and deleteing the same post over and over. It usually starts about some story I read, or talk I had, but it always ends up in the same place. Me, feeling really demoralized about everything I believe strongly in. I'm tired. Just exhausted. Abortion, politics, work, friends, everything. But it's a weird kind of tired. It's not a "give up and forget about it" tired. It's a "I have to keep going, but I'm not sure how" tried. Which is why I'm having trouble writing about it. I'm looking for a solution, something to jump start my brain. But I got nothing. So, the post remains unfinished, and unpublished. But here's something I do have to share.

I've got these silly post-it notes next to my desk at work. They're quotes of things people in the office have said that struck me as funny, or "true." Now, this is me, so they're not exactly inspirational, but they help get me through the days. Here are a few:

"Fuck it, I'm busy!"
This is kind of a mantra for me. I have to let go of stupid things that bug me at work, because there's a lot to do. There aren't enough hours in a day to be annoyed by everything that's annoying, and get all of my work done.

"If you hate something, fucking get rid of it."
I believe this was a conversation about cleaning out my bedroom closet, but it's good advice in general.

"It doesn't need to follow rationally"
This was from my old boss (miss him a lot). We were trying to work on messaging about a complicated online action. I'm not a message gal, I'm much more of an "explain it like directions" person. I forget that everything doesn't have to be a step-by-step process.

"I'm a feminist. You're a cunt"
So true. Going back to some of the posting from last week, this is what it really boils down to. I'm smart, and you're a dumb fucker for not agreeing with me, and you're keeping us all down with your asshatery.

I also have the lyrics to "Sister Christian." Maybe that will provide inspiration today. I'm motoring...

Monday Fun

First, via Bitch Lab, Chewbacca's Blog. Some great insights there.

Also, via Lawyers, Guns and Money, my word cloud.

Nice to see that "think" and "mad" are on equal footing. Somewhat encouraging. I'm a little disppointed that "abortion" didn't just overwhelm everything, but, back to work girl, back to work.